You might as well bang your head against the wall, than be friends with an ex. This video is proof

Staying friends can be equally catastrophic for the both people. Photo Courtesy: Youtube

Love is probably one of the best things in life. But, the best thing doesn't take much time to become the absolute worst the minute you breakup with your partner. And to be honest, all of us have different ways of nursing a broken heart. However, one thing that everyone ends up doing is trying to reach out to that ex and try to be friends with them.

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However, this new video points out exactly why being friends with an ex can be the worst thing ever. In the video, created by School of Life, philosopher Alain de Botton explains why people try to stay friends even after they have parted ways with the person they loved so dearly. The animated three minute video shows a fluffy monster and a cute balloon as two people who were together.

He says, "To the person being however nicely rejected, the promise of friendship can feel like an emotionally reassuring consolation prize. We may no longer be able to share their bed, have children with them or end our days in their company, but at least something can be rescued from the ashes."

He goes on to explain how staying friends can be equally catastrophic for the person who has been dumped and the one who has dumped them. "For the rejected party, the step from lover to friend is an eternally humiliating demotion. To go from the idea of a joint life-long future to dinner every second Thursday is, to put it mildly, a come down. Worse, every sighting of the ex is guaranteed to reignite hope and then further insult," he says.

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Botton goes on to add that when a person is trying to be friends with their ex, they aren't acquiring a friend, but an unwitting torturer.

"As for the executing party, the ex is a constant reminder of one's guilt and ruthlessness. One can't even relax into being kind, left one's intentions be misread and, after a few drinks, they burst into tears or attempt to make a move," he added.

He explained that the idea of trying to be friends constitute a touching attempt to honour the best sides of a relationship in which two people were heavily invested. He also said that lovers can't simply vanish from each other's lives after all that a friendship is invoked to memorialize an episode of genuine importance.

If you have ever gotten your heart broken and then tried the impossible feat to be friends with your ex, this video is for you. It may not give you closure, but it would definitely resonate with your broken self and the broken relationship.

You can watch the full video here.