10 signs that your partner is cheating
If you think there's something wrong or unusual about the way your partner's behaving, be sure that there's a reason for it.
Your gut feeling is never wrong. Let's begin with the most important
sign of all without beating about the bush. We will come to the nine
others later. If you think there's something wrong or unusual about the
way your partner's behaving, be sure that there's a reason for it. Now
it depends on you to find out whether it's because of another woman or
not. But 98 per cent of the time your worst fears will be proven right.
Counsellors, authors, self- appointed- experts on relationships,
women's magazines and the most important person in the equation, the
wife, have agreed on this point universally. There's nothing Indian,
American or European about it.
Lies, damned lies
There's
no such thing as a sudden meeting in office or an impromptu overseas
trip, especially if your husband's work profile did not entail all this
even a couple of months before.
A guilty mind is always a little
too conscious. So if you find that your partner is talking about the
trip and the itinerary a little too much as if trying to convince you
that it's the most important thing happening in his life, you should
start seeing things a little differently. The lies generally begin in
the small dayto- day things, like sudden trips to supermarkets - it may
well be the time he needs to talk to the other woman.
Tied to the phone
Call
it the boon of technological advancement. It probably would have taken
about a year to figure out your hubby's cheating on you about a decade
or two earlier, but now it takes probably months or just weeks for you
to get the true picture.
If it's a passionate affair, and not
some flimsy onenight stand, the eagerness of the two lovers get the
better of their judgment. They start texting and spending far too much
time on their phone than they ever should. And when they get that call,
they walk out of the room where you are - either because the
"connectivity is poor", or because he doesn't want to disturb your
sleep. Yes, these calls are mostly attended to late in the evening or
afternoons.
Feel the distance?
Is he refusing to
go out for family outings or staying too long away from home all of a
sudden? Deepti Khanna, a sales executive with an airlines, started
having doubts when her husband who was a "lazy bum" suddenly became
this active man who didn't enjoy spending his evenings holed up in his
living room staring at the TV. "He would go to the gym, then meet
friends almost every day, and come home pretty late at night. And it
was a side of him that I hadn't seen earlier." Her doubts were all
proven right within a span of six months.
No more sex
Most
psychiatrists agree to the fact that as soon as a man starts sleeping
with another woman his interest in his regular partner diminishes. You
will obviously notice this difference very soon. Headaches or stress
can be factors to kill sexual urges - everything will irritate him, and
you may end up arguing violently.
These arguments mostly make him feel less guilty about looking for love outside the marriage.
Aarti
Mishra, who divorced her husband after putting up with his
indiscretions for almost five years, says, "That's the saddest part. He
almost made me believe that our marriage was falling apart because of
my nagging and nit- picking ways, all the while completely keeping his
affair under wraps." It took her a long time to understand he was
straying because she thought arguing about silly things was a part of
every marriage. "Not if it's the arguments you remember more than time
spent together," says Mishra.
Friends don't lie
You
husband may have become quite an expert at fooling you, but his friends
cannot look you in the eye and lie. Confront them, and their reactions
will almost confirm your suspicions if there's a genuine cause to
worry. Common friends, the ones who have their loyalties divided, are
the ones to trust the most in such cases. But even your husband's guy
pals could give it all away simply because their eyes can't lie to you
for long.
Gushing about her
These are cases where
a small infatuation turns into an affair eventually. It all begins with
"she did that" and "she did this" to the point that a conversation that
includes the woman becomes a regular subject of discussion. You talk
about someone that much only when she's on your mind most of the time.
Time to meet that woman, that's for sure.
Easily offended
Another
easy sign of your man straying is when he suddenly begins to take all
the accusations you hurl against him, even jokingly, far too seriously.
The guilt factor's working overtime in his mind and he just can't take
you looking at him too closely. Another factor could be because since
the new woman in his life finds no fault with his personality, he has
become overconfident of himself, and too critical of you.
Criticises you
This
point is connected to the one above. He will have far less patience to
deal with his own shortcomings and blame everything on you. From your
cooking, to how you run the house - - everything will irritate him, and
you may end up arguing violently.
These arguments mostly make him feel less guilty about looking for love outside the marriage.
Aarti
Mishra, who divorced her husband after putting up with his
indiscretions for almost five years, says, "That's the saddest part. He
almost made me believe that our marriage was falling apart because of
my nagging and nit- picking ways, all the while completely keeping his
affair under wraps." It took her a long time to understand he was
straying because she thought arguing about silly things was a part of
every marriage. "Not if it's the arguments you remember more than time
spent together," says Mishra.
Throwing ultimatums
If
simple arguments about dayto- day activities are leading to him calling
it quits, it's got more to do with immediate feelings of frustration.
It's probably a Far too many SMSes is one of the biggest signs that
something is wrong somewhere. Thank the advances of technology for
making a few things - and emotions - more transparent than ever.
rehearsed
act or something that he's been trying to tell you for a while. Instead
of being angry and paving the way for an easy exit, search for the
right reason, and then take your call.
You can read the signs
right about being cheated upon even if you do not find the answer to
why men cheat. Books have been written and cups of coffee wasted over
finding an answer to that, but no one's suceeded yet. Yours truly had
once asked a beau about why men cheated? The thing is he was as cluless
as I was - but he did agree: "Yes, a man is as faithful as the options
around him." I give him full marks for honesty.
No. I'm not with
him anymore. When a lazy bum of a husband suddenly gets the energy to
pump iron and go out to meet friends far too often it's not due to an
energy drink or the healthy dinner spread you put out.
Far too
many SMSes is one of the biggest signs that something is wrong
somewhere. Thank the advances of technology for making a few things -
and emotions - more transparent than ever.
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