Is your partner micro-mistreating you? Here are the 5 hidden signs
And no, you don't have to be okay with it.
We all weave an image of our dream man in our heads, and it is etched so deep in our hearts that when we meet anyone who is even remotely close to the what we've always wanted, we feel like we've found the one.
And this tall, dark, handsome gentleman hits off pretty darn well with you, spends time with you, takes care of you (at least superficially), yet something doesn't feel right. You love him, but you're not exactly happy. However, since he's your dream come true, you keep ignoring your gutt feeling.
In all probability, even you don't know what's wrong. So let's break it to you: certain men are toxic. Not in-your-face-toxic; but, subtly toxic.
You see, a man doesn't exactly have to be a philanderer or an abusive jerk to prove he's an asshole. There are many other signs that can tell you he's one. And well, if they match, maybe it's time to rethink your fairy tale, or even show him the exit door. Find out here.
1. His Blame-Game is Stronger Than His Arms
If after every fight you find yourself apologizing to your man, not because you want to put an end to the fight, but because you're down a terrible guilt trip (thanks to all the nonsense he's fed you), then maybe it's time to retrospect. After all, it can't be your fault ALL the time. Basically, your man has a tendency to victimize himself, so even if he catches cold or there's an earthquake in the world, he'll blame you for it.
2. He Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself
Girls whose boyfriends don't compliment them because they're not all that expressive can skip this part.
In fact, this isn't just about compliments. He simply doesn't make you feel good about yourself; or worse--he makes you feel like you're not good enough. Maybe he's too critical of your appearance or your habits. But if your man doesn't treat you like you're some sort of majestic species that needs to be treasured, why is he even there in your life?
3. You're At Spot 189 In His Priority List
If he cancels on you for his best friend, best friend's friend, best friend's friend's friend, his mother, father, sister, brother, dog, cat, mouse--you know it's time to question his commitment. You're obviously not expecting him to make you the nucleus of his life; but hello, in a relationship, you deserve to be a priority. Since he's your dream man, let us give him the benefit of doubt, and say: he doesn't realize it. In that case, point it out to him. But if he doesn't act upon it, you know what to do.
4. He's The King, Though You're Not Even Close To Being a Queen
What we're trying to say here is that he just doesn't care about your needs. When he wants you to accompany him for a football match, you happily agree; but when it comes to giving you company for shopping, he disappears into thin air. If he occasionally doesn't go out of his way to make you happy, let him go out of your life for God's sake.
5. He's Okay With Flirting
We mean--outside of the relationship. In a serious relationship, the only "healthy" flirting is the one you do with your own goddam partner. Period. So if he does that outside of the relationship and defends it by saying, it has no meaning, then you need to know, your relationship has no meaning. Hence, DUMP HIM. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve.