Here's why baggage from past relationships is your best wing-woman

It's not all bad folks!

Dipannita Saha Dipannita Saha
जनवरी 31, 2017
Your baggage is not your fault or doing. Photo Courtesy: Pixabay.com

Baggage hurts, and no matter how much you want to escape it, you can't. With age, the burden of the baggage grows, and sometimes it even weighs you down. So what if you've dated all the wrong people in your life? So what if they left a huge scar? You shouldn't be too hard on yourself. Remember--your baggage is not your fault or your doing.

Every relationship, no matter how bad or good, leaves us with life lessons. Lessons that aren't important just for survival, but also for your next venture into the world of love. Yes, you might hate the fact that your past relationships put you through emotional hell every day, but your baggage is actually important. No, we aren't kidding.

Here's why your emotional baggage is actually a boon in disguise:

Your Baggage Helps You Be More Cautious
Yes, you probably will tread carefully while trusting someone new. Because let's be honest--trusting someone means letting your guard down. However, you should know that there's no reason to freak out. It's okay if you don't want to jump into the dating pool immediately after the break-up. And this is where all that baggage comes in handy. Believe it or not, it will actually serve as a constant reminder of all the red flags you should be wary of.

With Baggage, Comes Wisdom

Be honest, aren't you a little wiser after your last break-up? Haven't you introspected enough to understand where you both went wrong? You may want to deny it--but your baggage will actually save you from making a lot of the mistakes you made in your previous relationship. Yes, you may have stopped listening to your favourite love ballads. You may have played Adele on loop for days. But now you know all the things that you would have done differently. You also know what exactly you don't want.

Baggage Teaches You To Rely More On Yourself

You are your own best friend. No one, and we mean it, no one can understand you the way you understand yourself. We all try to look for the missing piece that would solve the puzzle we all think we are. But, in order to so, we often forget the piece that was missing is buried deep inside us. Yes, you made them your everything; yes, they were the centre of your universe--your true north. But, it didn't work out. Who will you rely on now? Yourself, of course. And that's actually a good thing because you get to rediscover yourself.

Baggage Also Makes You a Better Person

You know the saying: "Don't do onto others, what you don't want to be done to you." Well yeah, that's what baggage does--it makes you more sensitive and careful with other people's sentiments and feelings. For instance, if your ex-partner's temper brought you to your wit's end, you'll deal with your own anger during quarrels with the next partner better. Because you know it hurts when he screamed without listening to what you had to say, you won't do it to someone else.

At the end of the day, what you need to remember is this: much like everything else in life, emotional baggage is an opportunity to see the glass as either half full or half empty. You can rue the day you laid eyes on your ex-partner for the first time and blame that baggage for all future failed relationships. Or, you can see that hurt and disappointment as a chance to grow, be better, and find a partner you actually deserve. The choice is all yours. Though, we do hope your glass is always full.


 

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