5 tips to end an abusive relationship

Manipulated to think that they are to blame for the situation, many women suffer the violence for years, especially if they have children. Only by mentioning the word "abuse" most people think of physical abuse, bruises and injuries while forgetting that mental abuse also causes lifelong traumas. If you are in an abusive relationship, here are a few things you need to consider.

Acknowledge the abuse

Victims tend to minimize the abuse. Abuse does not have to be physical. It is frequently emotional or psychological. You don't have to wait for broken bones or a black eye before you consider it abuse. Yelling, name-calling, intimidation and threats are all forms of abuse. If you are forced to have sex without your consent, it is abuse and is sexual assault.

Set limits for your partner

Let your partner know that you are open to hearing his concerns about your actions and how they affect him, but will no longer engage in conversations that attack who you are as a person.

Seek help

Fortunately, there are many organizations (local and national) that specifically have the resources to help you. You are not alone! Your friends and family members are not necessarily the best people to help you. They mean well, but they could still be minimizing the abuse or you could jeopardize their safety by obtaining their help.

Keep your passwords safe

Change your online user names and passwords on a safe computer (such as at a friend's house, the local library or community centre) if you suspect your partner has obtained your personal information through spyware. If he can access your bank accounts and social media profiles, he can keep track of your movements.

How to end it

If you've decided to end an abusive relationship, don't just do it on a whim. This is something you need to plan out for your safety. Think about the best time to do it, do it in a public place, and try to get someone to go with you (more on that in a minute). Decide what you're going to say and where you're going to go afterwards. Having a plan might make you feel more confident.