Marriage without sex is a thing and it's not as absurd as people think it is

A sexless marriage is not the end of the world. So, stop judging.

Sarwat Fatima Sarwat Fatima
जुलाई 19, 2017
We really need to stop equating sex with marriage all the time. Photo: Shutterstock/ IndiaPicture


Marriage is synonymous with sex. When you tie the knot, you get life-long free membership of some hot action between the sheets--or so most people think. Confused? Well, there are couples in this world, who despite getting a social certificate refuse to indulge in any form of love-making. Yes, it's rare--but, it's not unheard of. Also, we are not talking about the 'bored of sex couples' here, who after 20-30 years of marriage find the activity too mundane. We are referring to couples who are new to the marriage scene, yet refrain from having sex.

But, How's That Possible?
These couples may seem like the ninth wonder of the world, but they really don't grow on trees. They live among us. They live like us. And they even breathe the same air. However, various factors discourage these couples from enjoying a passionate sex life. For instance, if any one of the two is sexually frigid or asexual, it gets difficult to maintain the sanctity of the marital bed. Also, in some cases women suffer from the irrational fear of sex. It might stem from a history of sexual assault or even fear of pain while having sex.

However, physical conditions aren't the only deterrents…

A Hectic Lifestyle Is A Contributing Factor
Imagine this: you've had a bad day at work and so has your husband. You both return home dog-tired. Now, if it's once in a blue moon kind of a deal then it still manageable, but if it continues for a long period of time then it's bound to hurt your sex life. When a couple is too caught up with daily hustle-bustle of life, it gets a little difficult to focus on the sexual needs.

In fact, most couples living in metropolitan cities with hectic careers to cater to find little time to make love at the end of the day. Well, who can blame them?

Sex Is Not A Stress Buster For All
Now, some people treat sex as a stress buster but this theory doesn't apply to all couples in the world. Not everyone finds spiritual release in between the sheets. Moreover, if your mind is focused elsewhere or you are too caught up with a certain situation, sex is really not that pleasurable anymore. You've got to pay full attention to what you are doing to reap its benefits. And in case a couple fails to provide their undivided attention, they end up disappointed with the whole act of love making, all together. Also, the not-so-tasteful experience discourages them from attempting it more frequently.

Activities That Are More Fun Than Sex
You think that's not possible? Well, for some it is. Every couple enjoys a chemistry that only the two of them are familiar with. Though, it may seem impossible that a couple enjoys other activities more, but it is true. Now, it can be dining out together, or watching a film, or go hiking, or taking vacations…the list is just endless.

What we are trying to say is that there are tons of activities out there, each unique in their own way, that such couples enjoy more than sex and it brings them greater happiness. So don't judge.

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