5 reasons why a rebound was the best thing that happened to me

Your expectations roll down to real time and it's wonderful. Photo Courtesy: Unsplash/Kate

There's no dearth of write-ups on the Internet on how to get over a break-up, no matter how bad. There probably ain't a single one out there that tells you that a rebound could be a fix. As long as consent presides supreme and all cards are out on the table--rebound is the way to go.

Also, as long as you're treating a rebound as a support system to get back on track, you're good to go. I did, and it was the easiest way for me to get over a particularly nasty breakup. However, you need to get rebound right.

It was Friends-With-Benefits Arrangement and Yet Not

Ruining perfectly functional friendships to get over your past is plain stupid. Avoid sex with anybody who's even remotely emotionally attached. You do not want emotions. Repeat this to your inner bitch every time she naps. Else, live with awkwardness all your life. I mean, there's a reason why you never hook up with friends.

It taught me how not to give a damn. Photo: Unsplash/Toa Heftiba

It is The Best Lesson in Sex Without Emotions Involved

It's a life skill. This is what will prepare you for a singlehood with no regrets. If there's one thing this whole affair/fling filled period taught me was to give no damns. Also, to filter out people who'll never get where you're going. It made me less gullible and a lot more aware of the fact that my feelings and my body were different entities. It was my way of learning not to mix the two.

Trust You Me, It Also Taught a Fearless Sense of Honesty

I did not fear judgements when I told the guys exactly what I was doing there. It was in this heartbroken and in-repair phase where I was clear that relationships were not anywhere in the picture. I did not fear judgement, I told people off, and I walked away when I realized what I wanted was not the same as what they did. That's a lesson staying for life.

It Also Rid Me of The Stigma of Rebounds

I happened to find people who accepted me because they expected nothing and vice versa. The stigma around rebound is that it leaves people used, but what if it doesn't? What if two people know they are never going to be together for the long run? What if they still want to just spend time and move the hell on? Most importantly, why does a breakup become the reason why it should not be done? Like I said, be honest dude. It will make it the most uncomplicated thing there is.

Your Bar of Expectations Reaches a Real-Time low

And that could be for the best. When people around stop pretending for the sake of your affection, you see people for the humans they are. I saw the men in my life as prototypes. It does not mean you lower your expectations, it means you see people as people and not superheroes. Your expectations roll down to 'real time' and it's wonderful.

After a break-up, this could be the repair therapy you need. It was for me. All I did was tell people without mincing words that my expectations were marginal. It was not an emotional support, it was more of an affirmation that I was my own person, not living by any rule set by anybody. Just make sure it's mutual. You don't want to leave people feeling the way you did.