Does he always have an excuse to not wear a condom? Here's what you can do

No matter your partner's excuse to not wear a condom, there is a way to handle it--delicately. Photo: Shutterstock/IndiaPicture

It just happened. In the heat of the moment. In the flow of things. He couldn't be bothered finding the condoms.

We've heard all this before a number of times. The truth, however, is far from it. It's a well-kept secret in the Secret Society of Sexually Active Women that a good majority of men refuse to wear the rubber. Their excuses--stressing on the word 'excuses' here, not 'reasons'--vary from "It's a mood-killer" and "I want to feel you better" to "I'm too big for it" (hello, Ego, you old mistress) and "Don't worry, I'm clean."

Your response to all those sentences--and many others hand-picked from the same category--should always be a big, fat NO. In order to not kill the mood with your sternness, though, try sentences like, "I know, baby, but it's always better to be safe than sorry." For the one riding the ego rollercoaster thanks to the size of his equipment, order him XXL size condoms online before your next steamy session. 

Now that we have them excuses out of the way, let's consider these practical options that work for most couples:      

1. Set Ground Rules Beforehand
You know how you discuss last night's session in juicy details when at work the next day? Yeah, we're talking about SEXTING.  Now, if you can do that, you can do this too! Be it over text,call, or a casual coffee--make sure you tell him the ground rules of getting down to "business". Telling him you're a bit too particular about using a condom shouldn't deter his intentions; if it does, trust us, you're better off without it (or him).

Though, remember to ease into the conversation. Messages are always received better when delivered with a dash of love.

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2. Safety is in Your Hands Too, Not Just His
If you've had an encounter before where he's refused to use a condom, take matters into your own hands and order yourself a female condom. Yes, they exist. A female condom is like a thin-plastic pouch with a flexible ring that's inserted deep into the vagina, much like a tampon. Don't worry, you'll receive an instruction manual when you order them.

3. Don't Let The Heat Die Down
A majority of men say they don't prefer wearing a condom because the act of putting one on takes away from the steaminess of your session, giving it an unnecessary break. Honestly, this one is true. The break truly can be awkward and potentially hamper the mood-IF you let it. But who's to say you can't keep things going when he's busy wearing the condom? Kiss him crazily or get innovative with your tongue while he's working the rubber!

Now that you're equipped with weapons to counter unsafe sex, go forth, make love lovelier.