Sex may not be taboo anymore, but I still CHOOSE to be a virgin. Here's why

I don't feel like doing it right now. What's the big deal? Photo Courtesy: YouTube

After almost a month of partying hard, I decided to spend a quiet Sunday watching silly movies, lying in bed with my BF. Wait. Just to make things clear, in my dictionary, BF stands for best friend (who simply refuses to leave me alone on most days).

Coming back to my supposedly peaceful weekend, we browsed through many channels and ditched the news and Titanic for the more sensible and definitely more entertaining Bollywood movie--Partner. I was in love with this David Dhawan flick until my BF (the full-form still remains the same) made a statement that immediately made me want to change the full form to B***h F**k Off.

She compared me to the 40-year old virgin, Bhaskar, played by Govinda in the movie. In fact, she even changed my name from Bandari to Bhaskar in her phone, but that's beside the point.

Being compared to Govinda is extremely offensive (how could she ignore my strong resemblance to Katrina?). However, being taunted for being a virgin at 24 was worse. Make that CHOOSING to be one, please.

Because it's not the lack of opportunity--it is my goddamn personal choice and here's why I've made it:

I am Not A Frickin' Hormone-less Woman, I Just Don't Feel The Need For It Yet

To everyone who is so concerned about my virginity status, show me the rule book that says losing it by the time you hit your 20s is a compulsion. If you can't manage to find it, drown yourselves in chullu bhar paani, because I couldn't care less. I'd rather wait for the time when I finally feel I am ready for it.

Also read: Sex-ed 101: 4 keys to sail through your first time smoothly.

And it's Not the Lack of Opportunity, It's The Lack of Belief

Lack of belief in one-night stands or belief in the fact that just because people around you are having sex left right, and centre--it means you should too. It's not a rat race, it's my life, for God's sake. And dude! peer pressure is so high school, who gives in to it in their wiser 20s?

I Don't Want To Have Regrets Later

Blame it on the rosy movies, I want my first time to be if not perfect, then memorable. Which is why I don't want to give it away to a guy I am unsure about.

I'm Not Saving It For My Future Pati Parmeshvar, I Am The Sole Devi of My Life

I am more of a want-to-get-to-know-the-other-person kind of a woman. I prefer intimate conversations to physical intimacy. So I may have sex before marriage, or maybe not. Actually, marriage has nothing to do with it. I might even take my own time even after getting married. There's no rush. When I feel like it, I'll do it. Period.

Also read: 7 things we bet you didn't know about your hymen.

I Don't Need An Excuse to Buy Sexy Lingerie or For Getting Waxed

Like I said before, I am the sole devi of my life. I don't need a man to dictate my waxing schedules or influence my shopping list. In my life, the sexy lingerie is for that feel-good factor and waxing is for hygiene if not for that short dress. What's a guy got to do with it?