10 rules of honesty in a marriage

What's the point of it all if you aren't telling the truth?

• Don't ask questions if you're not prepared to accept an honest answer, even if hurtful.
• Don't beat someone up for being honest about a past that you weren't part of.
• Do expect as much honesty as you give.
• When a guy is honest enough to tell you personal details about his life, listen to him instead of thinking that you'll be the one to make a difference. There are a lot of guys who won't even bother to be upfront!
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  Don't have predetermined answers.
• Don't be fluffy with your questions or your answers. You don't need to be brutal, but you do need to be crystal clear so that there is no ambiguity.
• Don't say what you think your partner wants to hear. Many people spend their time bumbling around the truth for fear of other people's reactions.
• Don't hold back your honesty, you will only end up feeling resentful about it.
• Don't get caught up in that 'your version of honesty'. Some people wouldn't know the truth if it jumped on them. The truth is the truth-no in betweens.
• If you're going to be honest about something, be clear about your motives. Is it to make him feel better or to make yourself feel better and unload your guilt onto him?