This woman proves not all arranged marriages are loveless

Born and brought up in India, she tied the knot with her husband in August, last year. Photo courtesy: Nazreen Fazal

The idea of an arranged marriage is often scary. You don't know the person well, you don't know where his priorities lie, and you most definitely don't know if you both want the same things from life. When you finally cave in to the pressure, you mostly do it to appease your parents and extended family.

We agree that it can be a little daunting, but arranged marriages don't always spell doom. In fact, at times it comes as a blessing in disguise. At least that's what happened to the 24-year-old Nazreen Fazal.

Born and brought up in India, she tied the knot with her husband in August, last year.

Post marriage, the couple moved to Saudi Arabia. And she couldn't be happier. Nazreen took to Facebook to express her views on arranged marriage, and we admit--they do provide a fresh perspective on the subject.

Maybe you can take a lesson or two from the lady. Photo courtesy: Nazreen Fazal

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"In the first week of knowing each other we had exchanged about 80 emails. Yes, you read it right. EIGHTY. We weren't flirting or indulging in small talk. These were serious back and forth discussions about our priorities in life, where we see ourselves in a few years, our expectations of a partner etc. I don't have to say this, but obviously I was the one asking most of the questions," she wrote in her post.

Maybe you can take a lesson or two from the lady. If marriage is on the cards for you and if in all probability it's going to be an arranged match, you might want to initiate the interaction by cutting the bullshit and coming straight to the practical aspects of life.

Don't play the demure Indian bride-to-be and get caught up in fervour. Sit down with your perspective groom and ask him about things that matter most to you. Just like Nazreen did.

"When I was first introduced to my husband, I sent him a two page profile of myself by email. On one page was 'who I am' and on the next was what I am looking for in a partner. In return he sent me three points about himself and asked me three straightforward questions", she wrote.

The idea of an arranged marriage is often scary. Photo courtesy: Nazreen Fazal

"For those who are currently in the phase of looking for a partner. Please take this seriously. Forget about a deadline or what people will say. The very same people who taunt you for being single will turn their backs on you when you have a problem in your marriage. So ignore the 'wedding' and think about the 'marriage'. Remember that the partner you choose will affect every sphere of your life, emotional, spiritual, professional, and even physical", she further wrote.

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Yes, the thought of an arranged marriage might make you nervous at first, but it doesn't necessarily have to send you into a frenzy. It does not matter how you meet your Mr. Perfect, what matters is how you turn an ordinary relationship into something extraordinary.

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