Wonder why those flirty texts have never developed into a date? Well, he's 'breadcrumbing' you
He's a tease ladies. Tread wisely.
So you met a guy on Tinder. You both swiped right, matched, and instantly hit it off. But, every time you wish he would just meet you, he disappears. Although he sends you messages, the flirty ones, hell--he even likes your posts on social media, that's where the tryst ends. Know what we're talking about? Well, girls the man is breadcrumbing you.
Yup, breadcrumbing is a legit thing, and men and women all over the world are indulging in it. Even Urban dictionary has a definition for it!
This dating phenomenon can be described as: "The act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages (i.e breadcrumbs') to members of the opposite sex in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort." Find it a little too strange, do you?
In the time of online dating when finding into a potential partner is as easy as online shopping (we aren't sorry for that analogy), people often leave conversations midway.
However, this dating sin involves leaving a trail of "breadcrumbs" for your unsuspecting victim to follow. Also known as "Hansel and Gretelling" (no, we're not shitting you) it keeps dangling just enough bait for the singletons to keep the conversation alive.
This evil trend has swept away 2017 and is posing as conundrums for all those who are looking for love on the web. To explain how it works, Sherry Turkle, a professor at M.I.T., who studies how technology shapes modern relationships, told The New York Times: "These are connections, not conversations."
"They can have the paradoxical effect of making the person who receives them feel let down rather than gratified, but then, confused: Is one asking for too much? Should one feel satisfied with a smiley face or a series of exclamation marks or a string of emojis? What constitutes being recognised?" she added.
Breadcrumbers check in consistently with a romantic prospect, but never set up a date. They pique your interest, by constantly reminding you of their existence, but will never show up. Unlike ghosters, who completely disappear without a trace--which is much better--they remain in constant contact. Evil, pure evil, we tell you.
But there's good news. You can always beat these breadcrumbers at their own game--just reply to their messages with less words than they send.
And next time, maybe try not to be greedy about that date? If he doesn't respond to your plans, let him be. There's plenty of fish in the sea, ladies, plenty.