I don't understand why women apologize all the time. Please stop!

It began on one not-so-fine day at office, when I was totally immersed in work. The zoned out workaholic in me was suddenly distracted by the sight of a colleague bumping into a pillar.

Much to my colleagues' horror, it evoked a rather unusual, or should I say a spiteful reaction from me. Yes, almost instinctively I wanted to get up from my chair to ask her if she was okay at first. However, what followed next made me want to grab her by the nape of her neck, and bang her head one more time on the very same pillar, with hopes of getting her brains in the right place after my shock therapy.

TBH, My Anger Was Worth It
If you're wondering what lead on to such cold-heartedness, then I must tell you the reason why it made my blood boil: That woman apologized to the goddamn, non-living, cemented pillar for bumping into it! Though I would be honest here and admit that Justin Bieber's Sorry playing in the background did add to the irony of the situation and well--to my anger as well. But the fact that most women apologise, even when they don't need to is actually worth the anger, isn't it?

Further Investigation Led To Some Startling Revelations

They say, channelize your anger in the right direction, and I did just that (obviously after giving my injured colleague some much-need comfort) by probing into this over-apologetic behaviour of women.

Psychologists attribute it to our biological wiring and inbuilt maternal instincts of wanting to make everyone feel at ease. So apparently, saying sorry is our way to smooth the pre-conceived social tension regardless of it even arising in the first place.

Also watch: Indian women should be sorry. Taapsee Pannu's video will tell you why.

You see, that's the problem with us. We are conditioned to care about how others feel and what people think about us so deeply that we overanalyzing every situations becomes a part of our lives, so much so that we end up hurting ourselves and feeling apologetic for our actions--even when we don't deserve to.

In fact, "sorry" to say, but our very own mothers are to be blamed here as well. Every time they gave their favourite ice-cream to us, or every time they've cancelled on their friends for us, they've unintentionally taught us to be guilty about honouring our own desires over others'.  

Yes, We Are Confident, But We Don't Need To Show That Off

There's no denying the fact that admitting to your mistakes and saying sorry requires courage and confidence. Even several psychological studies support that claim. But it really doesn't mean that we women go overboard displaying those qualities (unintentionally, of course) by throwing the 'sorry' word around so generously as if it's on some kind of a discount.  

What's even more disappointing is the fact even the slightest of the things can make us feel apologetic. According to a study conducted by researchers Karina Schumann and Michael Ross, women apologize more frequently because they have quite a low threshold for what they think warrants reparation.

And hence, there's a sorry ready at the tip of our tongues when we go out without the kids; when we happen to serve dinner late because may be we got stuck in a traffic jam which was obviously not devised by us; when we happen to do the most humane things like taking some time off. 

Basically, we are accustomed to thinking of ourselves as doormats, anyone can conveniently walk over. And we'd still end up thinking about the comfort of the walker rather than being walked over.

On Second Thoughts, There's A Better Way To Show That Confidence Off

And that is by knowing and believing that we are just as human as men, we do deserve our time off, we too are allowed to get stuck in jams and not feel like working on certain days because we too can feel exhausted. The key is to understand that we deserve all this and then demand it confidently.

Ladies, in the end, just remember that the only trips we need in our lives are the ones to the far lands of our choice with the company of our choice--and not these unnecessary guilt trips.