Here's the downside of being an emotionally intelligent girl

Who knew being slightly practical in life could be such a pain?

I don't remember the last time I lashed out at someone just because of a random mood swing or acted on my impulses and did something that I regretted later. It's not like there is a lack of emotion, it's just that I don't feel the need to act on every goddamn feeling that comes to me.

Back in the 90s, two very intelligent gentlemen professors Peter Salovey and John D. (Jack) Mayer gave a very serious term to this very natural attribute of my personality. They called it emotional intelligence and described it as, "the ability to engage in sophisticated information processing about one's own and others' emotions and the ability to use this information as a guide to thinking and behaviour."

Now, one would think that being logical and having a certain amount of control over your emotions is great, but trust me, it comes at a price, a heavy one at that. After all, dealing with stereotypes can never be easy.

I Am No Less Than Chitti From Robot For Those Around Me

Unlike Rajnikanth in the movie, I don't introduce myself as, "Chitti, speed 1 terahertz, memory 1 zigabyte." However, my lack of display of emotions or impulsiveness makes people think that I don't have a heart. Well, I do. I have a big heart, and even bigger… well--brain.

But My Rajnikanth Association Doesn't End Here
People think of me as some kind of a super-human, who can solve any problem in the world. From their heartbreaks to fights with parents to work-life problems, I am unintentionally the go-to agony aunt of my circle. While I am happy to be there for my friends, but people expecting me to solve their constipation problems can sometimes get on my nerves.

It Brings Me Some Not-So-Desired Responsibilities In Life

Just because I don't drunk dial an ex and drink in moderation, not because of my so-called emotional intelligence, but because I care about my health in life--I automatically have to be the responsible one all the frickin' time. While I am all for not sulking over what life brings your way, but taking care of drunk friends throwing up here and there, stumbling over their own high heels and crying over their exes isn't the best feeling in the world when you go out there to enjoy yourself and let loose after a hectic week at work.

I Am Perceived To Be Incapable of Adventures
I may be the go-to problem-solver, but when it comes to trying something adventurous, I am the last person they think of. Simply because I don't exactly seem like a risk-taker. Which is obviously not true. I take risks, but they are often well-calculated. Jumping into things impulsively and regretting them later isn't my thing.