My ex-boyfriend is now my best friend--probably because I'm gay

You can be friends with your ex--terms and conditions applied!

Dipannita Saha Dipannita Saha
अप्रैल 26, 2017
He may not be my partner, but he sure is my partner in crime and friendship. Photo courtesy: Shutterstock/IndiaPicture


You may have read numerous articles about how people of the opposite sex can't be friends, and even more articles about how that it's impossible to be friends with an ex. However, all these articles and researches probably didn't know about me before coming to these conclusions.

Why you ask? Because I'm an anomaly--not only is my best friend a guy, but he's also my ex. No, I'm not kidding.

My best friend and I have known each other for over 5 years now, and even though we dated for a couple of years, the breakup somehow didn't quite affect the friendship.

Maybe because I am gay and there's no way in hell that the two of us are ever getting back together.

I came out of the closet pretty late in life. Even when I was dating my now best friend, I was closeted. Although being closeted in my case only meant that I didn't say those three words--I am gay. Come to think of it, I actually checked out way more girls than him when we were together.

So, when we broke up, it acted like the final nudge I needed to come out of the closet. and I did, with flying colours (pun intended).

All the grudges that I held in my heart for the breakup went away the minute he became my biggest support when I came out of the closet.
The day I told him that I was gay, he wasn't really surprised because deep down he knew that I will one day accept who I am and stop lying to myself.
We even have an inside joke about how he turned out to be just like Ross from F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

We both realized that we were most compatible as friends and that our friendship was too important for us to let it get ruined by a stupid breakup. We both accepted the fact that the true nature of love is a state that does not end but rather evolves as its participants evolve.

We both know that there's probably no one in the world who can tolerate us the way we do and that has helped us to value each other more. We still fight, but now the fight is more mature and about important things in life, like why it didn't work out with our respective exs!

We help each other out when it comes to lady troubles. And although we seldom follow each other's advises, we know that we have each other's back.
Both of us went on to date other people and we have come back to share notes on various things we have both realized about our failed relationships. We talk about our love interests and give each other shoddy relationship advises.

In fact, I even offered to help him set up a Tinder profile after he broke up, because that's what best friends are for. And I know that the day he gets married, I'm going to be the in-charge of all things important. Be it taking care of his beautiful bride (the one I'll probably never get to hit on) or taking care of the guests and arrangements, it will be me he will rely on.

Being friends with each other for this long has made us realize that no matter what happens in our lives, our bond will never change. In fact, when people ask me about my retirement plan, I tell them that my best friend will probably have a place for me where I can live with all my dogs.

The thing is, people, or rather women, will come, and women will go, but our friendship stays forever. After all, bros before pretty women, am I right or am I right?

 

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