Not all attention is good attention: Here's the worst part about being a good-looking woman in India

There are three things that bite me in the ass: My good looks, good looks, and good looks.

Sonaakshi Kohli Sonaakshi Kohli
अप्रैल 27, 2017
Believe it or not, being good looking actually has a downside. Photo Courtesy: Meghna Kriplani

As it is, being a woman is difficult, thanks to the innumerable self-inflicted pains like waxing, tweezing, make-up, and fashion along with some nature-inflicted pains such as period cramps, labour pain, and PMS. But if Mother Nature didn't spared us, then how can men and society in general let us be?

You know the worst part? These external trouble-causing factors are a zillion times harder to face if you happen to be a woman who is also attractive. Fortunately or unfortunately, I too happen to be a part of this league. And honestly, the troubles I face are so frustrating that it makes me want to fight with my mother for passing on her genes to me. In fact, every time I am about to step into the salon for a facial, I fret over coming out looking better. Bit of an exaggeration there, but you get what I mean, right?

Yes! It's a frickin' struggle to be a good-looking woman in India. Here's why: I May Not Be a Man's Girlfriend, But I Still Become His HoneySadly, looking a certain way brings along a host of suitors and starers. Honeybees--I call those men honeybees--even though there's nothing even remotely sweet about them. All they do is annoy me with their buzzing sounds like "I think you're very cute" and "you look very pretty". In fact, there's no dearth of creativity in the world so some men even come up with more artistic sounds like "Hey angel, what time do you have to be back in heaven?"

If only they knew that I am evil beyond their imagination, extremely capable of turning their lives into a living hell. Come on, too much attention can really get on your nerves. It's uncomfortable to be looked at all the frickin' time.

And They Are The K. G. Balakrishnans of My LifeWhen it comes to judging, most men are even better that the former Chief Justice of India, K. G. Balakrishnan. Whether or not they approach me or know me, they automatically assume that I must be dating someone. Because how can a good looking girl be single? This also happens to ruin my chances with a guy that I might be interested in. Whatever happened to having my own standards for men? Whatever happened to my will to stay single and breathe in peace? Tsk. Tsk. Also read: 8 things your nosy relatives say when you're the 'eligible bachelorette' in the family.

But Then Men Prove That They're The Ultimate Badrinath Bansals From Badrinath Ki Dulhania

Simply because they just don't stop trying. I mean, even if they've done what they do best--assumed--that I must be dating someone, they still try to flirt. Hello! You must be the clingy stalker kinds like Badrinath Bansal from Badrinath Ki Dulhania, but I am no Vaidehi. In my dictionary, no actually means no, get that?

They Turn Me Into Mogambo, Who Never Gets HappyWhat do you do when you politely refuse to go out for a coffee with a guy, but he follows it up with a quick, "you know, I love your smile/eyes/nose/lips/hands/feet/fingers/nails/toenails/cuticles/hair/lice/eye crystals." Whatever it is that I've missed here is only and solely because of the initial reluctance that most guys face while saying what's on their mind. But you get the drift, right?

The point is that complimenting just won't arouse my interests in them or the coffee, you know? So the only way out is to be rude. My experiences tell me that "f**k off" is the language that they actually get.

Blame it on their stubbornness or my helpless, I am often judged as being hash/sadiyal/rude/arrogant/attitude bitch and what not.

Contrary To Popular Beliefs, Finding Friends is Harder Than Finding Nemo

When you're attractive, you're automatically seen as someone who has a lot of friends. In my case, this is true but it's got nothing to do with my looks, or so I hope because most of my friendships are almost a decade old.

However, making new ones isn't easy at all. Forget being friends with girls, who more often than not, judge me for being a 'b**ch', even the male buddies are hard to come by. In fact, usually the most aggressively friendzoned men also turn into Romeos. It sounds funny, but it really isn't because it not just leaves you with less number of friends, but also with a very minute amount of trust in life.

Also read: 5 ways to calm down your loud Punjabi mother effortlessly.

Family Also Doesn't Exactly Stay ApniI can't silence the aunties and relatives who call up my mother @20 rishtas/hour. However, sometimes that can rub off on even on the most open-minded parents. And then comes the pressure of child marriage, not literally, but, hell yes! I am still 10 mentally.

 

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