Dear parents, please teach your sons to be gentle men and not prudish ones

Let's raise gentle men instead of prudish ones. Photo Courtesy: Twitter/raagadotcom

"My husband cusses a lot. So much so that the other day while we were waiting for the signal to turn green, my three-year-old son cried out, 'asshole, asshole' pointing towards the red light. Yes, he actually thinks that the red light is called asshole!"

I remember reading a ten times cruder version of this post a couple of days back on Facebook. Amidst all the trolling, tagging, and about a thousand shares, I realized that this supposedly funny post had deeper implications.

I mean, just think about it. At the tender age of three, the naïve kid was just so quick to pick up his father's knick-knacks, and well, vulgar language.

It's fairly simple. Children learn--they learn from their parents. So you know what? It is majorly up to them to build future adults who are sensible, men who prove to be a boon to the society, and not a f***ing burden!

So dear parents, this is what we wish you teach your sons to help him become a gentleman--and not a man who harasses women.

Lead By Example
Remember how practical experiments in the lab seemed easier than cramming up the same theory in school? Well, it's the same case with your kid too. You can feed him with all the positive thoughts and teachings in the world, but if you don't practice what you preach, it makes no sense at all to him. Small things like treating the domestic help with respect, not commenting on the neighbourhood auntie's daughter's short skirt can really help.

Let Him Know a Girl's Clothes Have Nothing to Do With Her Character
Because in our free, democratic country everyone is entitled to wear whatever the f**k they want to. So it makes more sense to teach your son to keep it in their pants rather than pointing a finger at a girl exercising her fundamental right to freedom. After all, when your son goes takes to the streets clad in shorts, it's got nothing to do with his character, right? So why should someone else's daughter be judged for her fashion sense?

Teach Him That a Girl's Right To Freedom Also Means She CAN Say NO, And Well--MEAN It Too
Make your son understand that love or lovemaking is MUTUAL, not one-sided. And it cannot be forced. If a girl doesn't agree to get intimate, it means you simply back the hell off and mind your own goddamn business. No stalking, no touching, no eve-teasing. Period.

Bollywood is Not To Be Taken Seriously
All that hasi-toh-fasi  bulls**t and the macho guy stalking the girl in movies has done enough damage to the society already. While we can't exactly stop morons in the guise of filmmakers from generating such hideous content, it is up to the parents to make sure that their sons know the difference between right and wrong. So, he needs to know that relentlessly stalking a girl or trying to touch her without her permission will only make him look like a sickening pervert, not a hero.

It's About Equality, Not Partiality
I have major issues with this whole thing of "tere ghar mein maa behen nahi hai kya?". The very basis of this sentence we feed our boys is faulty. It almost seems like a terribly pitiful appeal to their conscience by implying that they must 'spare' the women out of fear of this b***h called karma. Hell no! Teach the boys to genuinely respect a woman, not because of her gender but as a fellow human being.

Teach Them To Spread Your Teachings
Not only should they learn to take a stand and help a girl in distress, but also teach their peers to do so. Because the society genuinely needs more gentlemen instead of prudish ones.